You can have sober friends, by going to AA meetings, along with getting involved in the fellowship. Remember!, People, Places, and things!
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I’m feeling the same way.
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Hey there, I’m sorry to here your struggling. I get it I was there once too. 12 days concrats’. Stay positive ok. Don’t get sucked into mess. Yes you need to plug into a meeting a bunch of meetings. Changing people places and things should be your goal ok. These friends that drink, it’s not really a good idea cuz it can be a trigger and then your subject to relapse. Hang around positive people do meetings find a sponsor, work the steps. One day at a time ok good luck I’m praying 
for you!! Guess what you have all of us to support you.
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Good job. Keep going. Try AA, they are your new friends. And this app is great also,
You can not heal in the same environment that broke you!! I know this first hand!! Contacts and old friends have to disappear!! Start over!
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When I first got sober, I painted my nails multiple times a day. Started learning nail art. Kept my hands busy and my brain slightly focused on something else ^.^ Not that you will paint your nails 
But find a hobby, it helps sooo much! Majority of staying sober is keeping busy if you ask me!
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I’ve been in active recovery for two years now, the tough days are still tough… probably bad advice, but I just go to bed if I feel like there’s nothing left to do. If it comes down to going out and making a bad decision, or going to bed and waking up to a new day, imma take my a$$ to sleep 
that’s just me.
I get it tho, I’m still struggling with making friends in sobriety. All my friends drink and do drugs. And the “friends” and people I thought I could trust in the program turned out to be literal twats so I’d rather spend my days helping other women recovery working in rehab, and coming home and spending time with my pup.
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Fellowship is vital to stay sober IMO. The easiest way to do this is to find meetings you like and connect with people there. If you are shy push through the fear and stick your hand up. Volunteer to do readings at the beginning, speak on the topic (if it's a discussion meeting), or help setup / break down the meeting. It will most likely feel really uncomfortable at first but if you can get through it I promise you it will get easier and easier. Make some chit chat and go from there. Best of luck.
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Hi😊
Ditto! 90 in 90, it makes AA a habit and part of your day; like brushing your teeth!
Indeed I feel the same way. I would love to talk about what I’ve been through of my addictions if you would like to connect
As well.
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It’s very, very difficult at first. But find your triggers, avoid them for now, and find ways to keep yourself occupied. Also switch to alternative ways to have fun or cope.
I order a favorite soda or milkshake. Temptations will always be there when dining out. If you are early in sobriety i would say don’t go to concerts or parties. Make new friends who don’t drink. Exercise. Take hikes. Walk. Nobody said it would be easy. But it feels great ! 12 days is usually longest I last. I’m determined this time to let go of my relationship with it.
Meetings are definitely the best way to help. Also, if you can incorporate so sort of therapy that will help. Good luck man 
Reach out if you need to talk
I had to lose all my old friends and I let them know that I’m staying clean and working the program of AA and if they keep trying to get you to go out with them then they are not your true friend I’ve also found that my true friends were in AA but wish the best for you try AA it was the best thing I ever did for myself
Feel the same way… reach out if you want to chat.
Sobriety can be person based.. meaning you don't have to go to AA if that's not for you you don't have to do anything anybody else does if that's not for you... What you need to do is sit down and make a realistic goal plan.. set goals that are achievable.. change your daily routine.. like everyone else says people places and things are key... Finding a higher power is the other part of the key.. you got this... I was addicted to meth.. I've been sober for a lil over 13 years now .. I'm also a recovery specialist if you would like to talk more you can get a hold of me at csteinbrinkcprs@refocusrecovery.org
Yeah sometimes out of sight, out of mind really helps. The less I think about alcohol, the easier.
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