Really having a hard time finding single people to date. Only been sober short while so not sure I can handle going out with someone who still drinks. Any suggestions ? Tried meet-up but no luck . And tinder is a scary place lol
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If you find the magic key, let me know!! For me, it is literally finding a needle in a haystack.
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Honestly dating while in recovery is so hard.
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Dating in recovery is very hard and can be difficult as well
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“God or higher
Power. Help me find a bride to be. Let it be of your choosing and not mine. Let her elegance be the Grace you’ve given me. Let her accept me for who I am just as you have for me. “
Cheesy prayer.
I tried dating. Not mature enough and as I shared in another post. I have a woman in my life that has my heart. And she’s 4. She and a long with her older brother need me to be the man I should of been 7 years ago. So my bride to be can wait until HE thinks I am ready.
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No insights here. I have been strongly warned it's a bad idea to date in my home A.A. group... but it's hard to find local sober people, and as a teacher, dating apps can be tricky..
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Good prayer!!! Honestly the best one I’ve read on here so far. Thanks for sharing.
My suggestions on dating in early sobriety don't sit well with most young people. The hormones are raging. I get it. I was once young too.
Back in 2003 I had a sobriety date of 12/11/02. I had a long history of relationships with women.
My sponsor asked me to stay out of relationships for at least a year until I could get a good grip on who I was and created some stability in my life.
I spent a long time learning about me, taking classes in areas of interest. I even went to a 3 night seminar in my church on dating.
I did some dating but found no connection.
I eventually met a girl on line from the Philippines in 2015 through my church community. I brought her here in 2019 and we were married. Best decision I ever made. I will be eternally grateful for my sponsor's advice.
My wife and her 2 kids 23, 24 don't drug, smoke or drink. No ink, no body piercings either.
P.S. thanks for all that you do as a police officer.
(Your profile)
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I feel the same way!! I have to realize that God will send the right person at the right time!! It’s hard finding people that you can relate to!! People find out your a recovering addict and run the other way!! Those aren’t your people! Stay steong! The right one will come along!
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If you're going to be triggered by those who drink alcohol, then why put yourself at risk? Recovery takes time. In five years, I'm still finding out who I am.
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Dating will come, when you are ready and healed. Sobriety is hard work. Take things slow and be kind to yourself.
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I get what you’re saying brother! But I’m taking a different to approach to dating. I know I’m in early recovery but I’m working on being comfortable around others drinking. She just can’t be another alcoholic LOL!
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Uh, wut?
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I totally feel this man. Our society is so based around alcohol in the dating world. I would put it on your profile too! That might weed out the bad ones.
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I’m down! Lol
I am having a horrible time myself then someone you think you are getting close to ghosts you
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There is also CASL is a dating App for people in recovery. Dating in recovery can and should be a beautiful thing, but it could also be extremely dangerous to our recovery
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That's the nature of people now. Nobody can focus on anything because when you go to sleep, somebody else is always there to validate them with attention. People seem to need constant ego stroking these days.
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I have a year and 2 months though
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