I found myself isolating from people I know. I don’t want to be around them because of the reoccurring themes “ Dinner & Drinks, Boozy Brunch, Painting with a Twist” I mean everything has alcohol involved! It’s not their fault but my gosh what ever happened to hiking? Picnic?kayak? Museum tour? It’s ok to find a different tribe until you trust yourself around alcohol again. It’s almost like we have to retrain our minds and remember how to have fun without getting crappy.
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The only thing a person needs to change to be happily sober is….. everything.
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You’d be surprised that some of those people that drink that we’re friends they just envy you because you have the power over the alcohol instead of the uncle having a power over you. The downside they want to be sober to
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Make New friends in sobriety you are who you hang around read Psalms one
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my friend groups started to die because of this and i was really really sad over it for a while in sobriety. but then i realized once the booze was taken away we didnt really have that much in common. its a hard transition period. like the BB says if you have a valid reason to go to a bar show up briefly. VALID REASON. not to have fun or because of fomo. i suffer from FOMO 
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Really ? How do figure that ?
lol what is fomo?
What helped me with that is really getting connected in a sober community—I chose AA and the fellowship that has sprung up around me is incredible. I still hang out with my old friends occasionally but I’d much rather spend time with my AA sponsorship family. They know how to have a good time… sober
(PS FOMO is fear of missing out)
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Friends?
I feel ya! It is soooo hard to make sober friends everything around me is engulfed with alcohol. Even my running group meets at a bar before and after. All I can say is keep trying.
You are a wise to stay away from people that drink until you build some serious clean time.
If you hang around a barbershop long enough, you're going to get a haircut!
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Got it. I don’t experience fomo at all. I’m bored of the same shenanigans. I’m in south Florida and it’s a party town city w/e. Full of smokin mirrors really.
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Sheesh ! Wth drinks after a run or before ? Wow haha I’d be so crappy.
Makes sense .
After lolz. Not everyone drinks and I joined to have some cardio and meet some people! But yea def a drinking culture out there!
Yikes! I have heard a lot of stories about Florida from people 
Recovery and solid people everywhere if you look for it. I literally had to embarrass the heck out of myself at meetings before I found my fellowship
You have to find new friends in sobriety it’s so important for long term recovery. Anyone I used to hang out with drinking and getting high with i don’t even speak to anymore, every contact on my phone is in recovery. PERIOD.
Totally understand this! What I didn’t realize, is that the same friends I used to always go boozin’ with, were the same ones basically begging me to get sober. Now, whenever we hangout, they make sure to provide enough sparkling water for me & LOTS of snacks, lol. I know it’s hard whenever we live in an alcohol driven society, but like someone mentioned above, some of my friends have found my sobriety to be empowering to them & enjoy doing sober hangouts. So, keep on keeping on! You’re doing great!
Unless you’re a Social Drinker (honestly), and that’s what I wanna be but I am not.
I didn’t have that problem as alcohol and an narcissistic ex took everything including friends. I’ve found some good ones in recovery 