This is very true!
My hobby is going to be better quality time with my son. And getting the motivation to take care of my home again. Eventually i hope i can handle exercise again too. I have health issues that i also deal with so its very slow progress for me. I did an IOP and a brief stay at a rehab which didnt work out. I wish i could get things in place to go again. But i have a child and dog and billsā:woman_shrugging:t3:
sucks it didnt work out when i had the aranlngements.
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Iām in the same boat as youā¦. I think it just takes us a little while to finally realize we can not drink like othersā¦ wish I could
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Yes! I keep fooling myself.
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All you have to remember is to make it to sleep sober and then say that again the next day
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This is a good tip. I definitely bought my own alcohol. Lately its been being provided for me and ive been around it more. Along with being around others who drink. But, yes getting to bed for the day sober is something i can look forward to. Being asleep is a wonderful utensil for not drinking lol. Point is im pretty sure i wont buy it for myself at least right now. After some time my brain will most likely try to trick me again. My last round of sobriety i iust really isolated myself.
Just remember how good you feel sober
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Thereās no average number..but it takes however many times it takes for you and do not feel ashamed about relapsing..it happened,accept it and move on..remember what lead to the relapse,that was your trigger or triggers..be thankful to be back because some people aināt that fortunate to.
Keep pushing yourself forward and me donāt give up.
Happy to be able to read your share.
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Strange mental blank spot. Thatās what happened to me a number of times. I could not for the life of me remember just how bad it was the last time I drank. Then the obsession would be so strong that no one could tell me otherwise not to take that first drink. I find that working with other alcoholics, prayer, meditation, going to a few meetings a week, sharing a meeting, and fellowshipping keeps me in the center and sober. Seeking other spiritual resources to help keep spiritually fit.
When sponseeās relapse I ask them what part of the program did they stop doing? Or havenāt done yet?
Almost always the first one is stopped going to meetings. Then goes prayer, and most of them havenāt sponsored anyone or keep their commitments at meetings. Another reason is they stop taking their inventory.
I have to continue to turn my will over to God each day. Asking for strength to go out to do Godās bidding. Today Iām grateful for the life this simple program has given me.
Iāll pray for you.
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This post really hits home with me . I had 2 months sober and felt on top of the world and then I relapsed to the point of going have to be admitted to the hospital for alcohol poisoning and then going to detox . After that I swore I was done and dove deep into recovery and focused on bettering myself. I got an amazing job I felt so healthy .. I was on top of the world with 5 months of sobriety ā¦ and then all it took was one moment of weakness and thinking I could handle one drink
I relapsed .. lost that job and not only that during my bender I managed to fracture a bone in the top of my foot and not Iām ā¦ not only jobless .. I have a boot cast and the potential of surgery ahead of me .. all because I thought I could handle one drink and be OK .Know you are not alone in this horrible disease Iāve relapsed twice and turned my life upside down . I have to try to stay positive and that I can get through this . You got this girl 
The good news is, you never have to drink again. If you go to AA meetings, get a sponsor and take the 12 steps, you never have to drink again.
The reason you keep picking up a drink is because you think that a drink is going to help you. You keep believing the big lie that says, this time everything will be okay. But it never is, is it?
What about phone numbers? Did you call anybody before you picked up a drink?
If we only put in half the effort to work on being sober as the time we make for drinking we can do great things.
You got this,stay strong and work the program
Praying for you Emily.
Today is a new day. Doesnāt mater how many times it takes to stay sober. Itās different for each person and their circumstances. Eventually you will prevail. The key is to position yourself around positive sober people. Lastly it paramount to get a mentor.
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Keep trying and it will eventually stick. Don't give up
Stay the course and be honest with yourself. Do this for you and a better life. Stay blessed and know your loved
How do we go about getting a mentor?
Hi Emily, relapsing can really hurt and make us question a lot. However, today is a new day, and since we want to live better and have tools to do so there is great hope. Try not to feel ashamed if you can help it; none of us are perfect.
I found this utterly amazing book by Allen Carr. I canāt recommend it enough. It allowed me to put down the alcohol in one day. Itās called āQuitting Drinkingā. Information is power. Give it a try!
When get urge make jar full actives take the piece paper do that active trust me it works u have no excuse
Relapses unfortunately happen and unfortunately there isnāt a number and it may never fully click. I think if anyone actually understood addiction then there would be a cure for it but thatās not so much the case. I know how disappointing it is when relapse happens time and time and time again , thatās been the story of my life but sometimes the guilt or shame alone pushed us as addicts to use again , and the real crazy thing is sometimes even being excited about becoming sober will push an addict into using again , itās true insanity. But hey I wanna encourage you to accept the fact you slipped up and can change that but the fact your reaching out for help shows you care and want change. That says more than you might realize and thatās something that doesnāt go unnoticed. Donāt dwell to hard on relapses just take it as a lesson learned what not to do next time , sobriety isnāt about being strong itās about being smart, by staying away from people places and things . I believe in you and I promise your life is worth it, donāt give up !
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