Struggling to find a reason to get sober. Im currently in

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Struggling to find a reason to get sober.

Im currently in the thros of depression and I don’t see a future for myself. I don’t see why I should put in the work to get clean when I don’t even care to live.

My addiction has gotten so bad that the anxiety I experience on a daily basis regarding whether I will live or die is excruciating. I see the negative health effects it’s having on me, yet I can’t stop.

It’s either I stop and live or keep using and die. But I don’t even care to be alive right now.

Feeling defeated.

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#2

Victoria I know how you feel I have 100 days sober today but am still trying to move on from my ex girlfriend. Dating world is tough but I know I need to focus on getting joe right first. Hope that helped stay strong.

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#3

I can relate. I once read suicide doesn’t end the pain, it only passes it on to those w who love you. It’s what kept me fighting. Only 15 days and it hasn’t been easy but I promise you I’m beginning to see the light and I know you can too! I suffer from depression so I understand

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#4

I didn’t realize I was slowly committing suicide

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#5

I also struggle to see a future for myself. Feeling it’s not worth trying to imagine since I’ve already broken myself and my chances.

But here I am - with people who love me - people who love you. Still breathing.

You are worthy of a future, a bright one even. You are capable of achieving good things. There is hope - you are here. Still breathing.

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#6

Yur giving the devil exactly what he wants n he loves you rite now. He's a liar. Yur here for a reason. Trust that. God gotchu. Keeping yu in my prayers :pray:t5:

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#7

Get into a rehab or a program ASAP. Get into NA or AA immediately. Get some real people who will help you. Do not rely on praying or any of that shït. The women in AA/NA really look out for eachother, they will take care of you. Please give it a try.

You DO care to be alive, if you didn't, you wouldn't have sent this S.O.S. Hang in there, but get some real life, real time, no mysterious ways, support.

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#8

I was exactly where you are one year ago. And I did try to end my life. I’m grateful every day that I was unsuccessful because as soon as I got that ugly toxic substance of alcohol out of my brain the real me started to come back and I knew I wanted to live. My advice is to tell someone you’re close to what you’re going through right away and make them promise to help you get into treatment. Tell them not to let you out of their sight until you’re in a program. Making those decisions and taking those steps is next to impossible when you’re still that deep in alcohol so have someone help you do the research and find a place.

I PROMISE YOU, the real you wants to live. And the people who love you want that too, and they will rally around you but only if you’re honest and ask for the help.

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#9

A life beyond your wildest dreams… please reach out for help

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#10

When you give yourself 2 weeks to a month my depression and anxiety basically went away.. remarkable what happens when you’re not consuming depressants.. anxiety is non existent.. you can do it

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#11

I’m not going to lie to you. This could last for awhile…BUT…it will not last FOREVER; I promise you. I have battled depression and anxiety my entire life. Self medicated my entire life, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized so much of it was the stuff I was abusing and the toxic/negative relationships with narcissistic people that was really making me depressed. Start by continuing your sober journey, and try adding some exercise and mediation. I’m not talking some intense sort of exercise, just walking. I walk for an hour every morning and it gives the physical part of my anxiety and depression a way of releasing itself. The body holds so much of that in itself and if you give it a physical outlet, you’ll be surprised at how much easier it is to harness the negative thoughts. Find some sober podcasts and read some books, a favorite of mine is Naked Mind. Go in YT and find some positive healing meditation music and just sit and listen in a dimly lit room. Don’t try to stop the negative thoughts, just let them drift through you like clouds, then try redirecting your thoughts on the future and what that could hold for you (Dr. Dispenza is a great resource for healing meditation and books on it). Lastly, and even though this may seem impossible at the moment, try helping someone else. Like responding to someone else struggling on here or offering to return a cart for someone older at the grocery store, or compliment the person at the register when checking out. Weirdly enough helping others will usually help you more than it helps them.

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#12

I had to stop drinking in order to feel like living. I lost my 23 year old daughter October 3 2021 a day before my birthday. I thought why not just drink myself to death. I lost my mother father sister grandmother you name it. You are worth it!!! Don’t quit!! You are loved❤️. Please go to detox. It’s hard but trust me you can do this.

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#13

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. You are loved and you are here for a reason.

Getting out of the nightmare of active addiction is hard. But it is so worth it. I know you can do it. You’ve been around this site for a while and that’s great but this is not a recovery program. This is a community of support that we use to add to our recovery program.

I agree with @taylor134616 above. Get into treatment. Get into rehab. Get into an intensive IOP. Whatever is holding you back from getting help is going to kill you.

I know @mjg44017 and @steve56100 who run this website can put you directly in contact with people who are trained to help you. Professionals. We on here are rooting for you. We support you. We want to celebrate your recovery with you. We are drunks and addicts and trauma victims and suffer from mental illness but we are all here because helping someone like you who is in crisis also helps us to stay committed to our own recovery.

Please don’t wait. This won’t just go away. But you are worth fighting for.

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#14

@victoria147183 you are worth the work. Please reach out and get the help you need.

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#15

Thank you so much…all of you. It means so much to have all of your support. I’m going to find NA in my area and start attending asap

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#16

I understand where you are coming from. I have felt the same way. That is why we are here even if you can’t see the light or feel for your self we are all here for you! Message me Anytime friend. Remember you are stronger then any substance your body is craving i promise you.

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#17

I think the better question would be, why would you not want to get sober? What is intoxication doing for you?

Looking at your photos, you are a very beautiful young woman who has the rest of her life ahead of her. Don't let alcohol destroy you!

One of the big lies out there is that alcohol actually helps supppress our depression but it actuall compounds it.

I'm 64 and I struggled with getting sober for many, many years. But you know what? I did it. I did it through the program of Alcoholics Anonymous.

I never thought I would ever be a homeowner but you know what? I'm a homeowner.

In 2015 I met a woman online from the Philippines. She immigrated over here in 2019 with her two kids. We were married in 2019. Life has never been better.

There's a new life waiting for you. But you have to make a decision and take the first step.

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#18

You are stronger that anything thrown at you. Good has already happened, we just have to play it out and have that faith girl. Sending you love and strength from someone who used to fall short everyday. Keep going.

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#19

If you haven't already please, please see a professional. I suffered for years with mental illness and after a suicide attempt found help. Now 5 months sober and taking the right meds I'm finally happy.

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