Made it past a year for sobriety and I am very proud of that. Went into the dating pool and was seeing a guy that was going well. Told him somewhat about my past, legal troubles and my alcohol abuse and then he had his friend look up my record and cut things off because of it. Not meant to be if someone is going to judge me on my past and not look at all the accomplishments I have done after but the feeling is still sucky…
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That has happened to me twice.
Life on life's terms. It's just how it's gonna be sometimes. Hang in there.
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You’ll find the guy who can have grace for those parts of your life. And it will be well worth the wait.
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Those who matter won’t mind and those that mind, don’t matter!
Your past is just that past. There are those who won’t care, and will lift people up for the success they have!
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So sorry Casey. I think the guy must be a thoughtless JACKA$$
Same man
That has happened to me before. Tore me up. Took me awhile to dig myself out from that. Made me realize how much I value a relationship with open discourse. You got this, stay the course you are on.
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I was thinking, this is very similar to making amends to people. You can't control whether or not they accept your apology or any sort of amends. It's gonna be what it is gonna be. Sometimes we burn people so bad, they just aren't ready. And sometimes other people have burned people we are interested in so bad that they just don't even wanna be bothered with us and the possibility of another nightmare similar to something they've already gonee through. Don't take it personally. Most people act/react according to their personal experiences.
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Can relate to this.
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His loss. 100%.
I have a mess on my record. But I’m better for it. Every day sober I feel I become better suited to become a partner.
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Yes. I too, relate.
I hope that you are very proud of yourself, Casey. Yes. You deserve grace, not judgements.
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I’m so sorry, that’s sad. I hope it doesn’t effect you too badly. People not in recovery simply don’t understand that we can completely change to a better solid person. My experience is that many of us become the most solid and trustworthy people on the planet!!! My best friend has literally like 50 felonies and is trust him with everything I have, including my life. I hope you might find possibly a partner in recovery that understands you. Your definitely worth it
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You’ve accomplished something that is very noteworthy. This is the here and now. If someone had a problem with your past, don’t look back at that with them because you’re not going that way. Those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind.
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Thank you everyone. This really helped me and I cherish you all.
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Casey, no one is perfect. No one. I suggest you work with your sponsor through the steps around why the end of this relationship is bothersome. I have found over time by working the steps and practicing the principles that if I got my way in things, I would have sold myself short. Trust the process, and be wary of resentment. You may not need this person in your life, or not yet. Just don’t drink no matter what and work the program. It will all work out exactly how it is supposed to, if your willing.
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Thank you Matt. I don’t do AA but am in Smart recovery. We don’t have sponsors but I have a group I meet with 3 times a week and I talked to them about it tonight which was very helpful.
Excellent, I’m glad to hear it. Hang in there. It will work out.
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I’ve had similar troubles. Keep your head up Casey! I know I would personally not even consider dating someone that was unfamiliar with my struggles!! My best friend is out there somewhere. I just have to be patient!!
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His lose! Do you remember what you went through? How much you have grown? Holy moly I can't tell you how much stuff I'm still trying to clean up? Be proud of what you've accomplished, you are already better for it!
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He just wasn’t your person
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