What’s a good comeback to someone who continually comments on

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#1

What’s a good comeback to someone who continually comments on ur non drinking status ? Like “that’s boring” or “ you can toast with apple juice” it makes me angry and I want to say something .

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#2

I generally don't bother or a simple smile and to each there own. Same for a toast smile and lift your glass because it makes no difference to me what's in the glass. Tradition out the window I say.
If there is alcohol in the glass, fake it the best you can but do not drink it. It doesn't matter what people think.
I side note if they persist they are not a true friend and not worth the trouble

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#3

How about this... I don't need a drink to be happy but apparently you do. Or, it's better to be boring then creating chaos. Or you can say you have an allergy to alcohol and you break out in handcuffs. There are so many other things you can say.
But don't ever think you can have just one. That will just spiral out of control on you.

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#4

You don't need to explain yourself to ANYONE! Just smile and walk away, they will eventually stop when they stop getting a rise out of you. Some people just suck because of their own issues... it's not your issue.

Have a great day!!

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#5

My Sponsor tells me ALL the time, “Defense is the first act of war.” Just look at the person. Say nothing. They will look like the assholes.
Or, because I have a hard time sometimes with this, I’ve taken down notes from a TedTalk!

Dealing with Assholes

  1. Say repeatedly, “Thank you for sharing that.” This is usually enough. It deflects.
  2. “I’m sorry. I didn’t actually hear all of that. Would you repeat that back slowly so I can hear all of it.” This makes them realize they sound like assholes.
    And for the extraordinary assholes (like my family):
  3. “Are you trying to make me feel bad about myself because that’s not going to work.”
    And the doozy for when they they’re just relentless:
  4. “While we are sharing, did you know that the most critical people reserve the most criticism for themselves because they don’t like themselves?”
  5. Just smile and say nothing. Just know that they have problems.
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#6

Thanks everyone !

#7

Sorry that’s happening to you, Donna, I bet your posts are awesome :thinking: is this individual insecure, I wonder :thought_balloon:

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#8

I’ve told people who question it that I wish I had their control to drink responsibly, but unfortunately, I just don’t. I turn what may be a dig at me into a compliment to them. Diffuses the situation and everyone wins.

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#9

Yes , very.

#11

Don’t waste your time on them or the thoughts. Keep on being awesome.

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#12

I don't even acknowledge those kinda people anymore. I barely even notice them now.

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#13

Haters are gonna hate. She’s got her own issues. Use it as motivation to keep going. Might not be the case but there are lots of people that wish they could stop also

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#14

Ohhhh. I really like #2

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#15

Don't say anything. They are jealous of your healthy new choice and deep down wish they were as strong as you. At least you'll wake up normal the next day while they will feel like craap😉

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#16

Some are sicker than others then laugh a lil insanely...lol

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#17

Also remember when people are that way there's something wrong with them and really has nothing to do with you... hurt people hurt people. Back to my favorite..
Some are sicker than others.. sometimes I'm the sicker 1 other times I pray for the sicker 1

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#19

I say “we’ll at least I’m not ruining my health or gaining weight.”

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#20

Meant to say “well” darn auto correct!

#21

We say and believe “Happy Independence Day”!

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#22

You could ask them, “What’s your point, I mean seriously what are getting at?”
If they are constantly doing that I’d just as soon get it out in the open.

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