Why can't I stop... like my will power is aweful
Advice ?
I truly want to stop and turn it around but keep lapsing
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You’re there at the starting line bud. You want to stop. And just knowing that means you can.
Honestly, it’s hard to get that sober footing just right, where it sticks. But keep it up, and it will.
Believing you want it means you can do it. Get through these rough and hard times and know all of us have been there too. We got you dude.
Till then, find what makes you happy. Truly makes you happy. Something you love to do for you, but don’t seem to find the time to do it. Find that time.
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I feel like I been there forever. In group they say surrender to a higher power but I have this stigma in my head about religion but at this point I'll do whatever it takes to be normals and break the cycle
32 going on 33 I think
Any sober time you can give to yourself is a positive thing. Less stress on your body, mind, and bank account. Remember and remind yourself of that if you slip. Forgive yourself and keep giving yourself positive things. You will get there.
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I’m not a meetings or higher power person. Growing up Mexican Catholic gave me a huge stigma, so I feel ya.
On the other hand, a meeting can’t hurt. Either you’ll feel at ease or you’ll realize it’s not for you. It’s worth the trip to a few meetings to find that out for yourself.
And if you read the last post on my profile, meetings and a HP may have been a great thing for me back in the day, religious stigma or not. You might meet someone there in person that can really be that in person support.
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Don't get me wrong the meeting help put things in prospective but sometimes my problems seem insignificant to some of the other ppl that may use something else besides alcohol
Will power has nothing to do with it. We have a disease. I found the answer in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous.
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Every one says this early on. Our disease tells us we are different. That we don’t belong. You keep trying to do it your way long enough and you’ll have plenty of terrible stories. Listen for the similarities. The thoughts. The feelings. The people, places, and things are all just dressings. It’s the internal stuff that’s always the same for all of us. The hopeless, despair, guilt, remorse, feeling out of place in our own skin.
I'd do anything to get back those gaps in my memory during black outs
Or the fact that some other part of me was behind the wheel. What did I do where did I go? How did I get home
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See if there are any Refuge Recovery meetings nearby- mindfulness based recovery program
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Your problems are your problems. Don’t try to compare them with another’s. They are going through their own as well, and both of you showed up for meeting.
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Alcohol is just another drug, the disease is addiction.. it can be drugs, food, .. etc.
Don't give up on the meetings, change the way you listen.. Do not compare stories, try to identify with something that may not have happened to you, but certainly could have.
I never spent time in jail, but I could have..
I never had to lie cheat or steal for my addiction, but could have. Things like that.
For some yes, for others no, don’t ya think? For example, I’m not a meeting person. What turned me off was saying “I’m powerless.” Heck no baby, I’m powerful. I and only I willed myself to be who I am today.
Sobriety is a personal journey, some may need the guidance and help of a strict nature. Others not so much. Gotta let everyone recover in which whatever way works best for them, no?
We suffer from the only disease in mankind that would tell us we don’t have it ,Don’t believe the lie
Alexander ~ please go immediately to get a book called This Naked Mind by Annie Grace. It’s very enlightening & I borrowed it from the library. Annie Grace is great & she has an app that you can download for free called the This Naked Mind Companion app. You can look up her free videos on YouTube right away. She also has a Podcast. I read her other book too called The 30 Day Alcohol Experiment. Her program works … especially for people who don’t like AA.
I paid to do her PATH program & I have been alcohol free for over 8 months!!. Trust me, it works. If you don’t want to pay for the PATH program then just get support from all the free stuff. It’s not your fault!! Alcohol is an addictive substance that anyone can get addictive to (ACCIDENTALLY!)
People get addicted accidentally … it’s not your fault. There is nothing wrong with you & you are not to blame!!
What have you tried as far as support? What about rehab is that an option for you?
It is a little I grew up around drinking and weed and drugs when I got older
I have an active alcoholic father whose falling apart literally and it's heart breaking to see but it's been so tough to see and so long that I'm numb to it now I'm
Just waiting for the day we get a call saying he died drunk driving or just find him dead
I wish I was more mindful of what I was doing back then and not follow in this path