Wife wants me out of the house now. 2 kids

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Wife wants me out of the house now. 2 kids and I am now really hopeful to keep the sobriety going. I’ve done it before and I know I can do it again. It hurts so much cause she’s the love of my life but I put myself here. Asking god for help. Got outpatient and AA. Lied to the kids last time I quit so that’s extra motivating. Just don’t want it to be over. 11 years together

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#2

Sorry to hear that, man. Hopefully sobriety can reunite you.

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#3

Thanks man I’m praying for it daily. Appreciate it

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#4

I completely understand. My husband is moving out, got his own place, and we are separated now. We have been together 18yrs. It’s so hard! I was 63 days sober and I had one drink 2 days ago. I’m here in Florida if you need someone somewhat local to talk to.

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#5

I’m sorry to hear that. It does suck bad. One day at a time and the only easy day was yesterday. I’m still in the house but I’m looking around. She’s given me chances before but I think this is the last straw. I see your cocoa?

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#6

Merritt Island to be exact. Right by Cocoa Beach.

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#7

Believe in the promises and keep showing up, focus on you it will all gravitate back.

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#8

Even with 1 year and 3 months its still one day at a time. I know how hard it is, this is a we program, you are not alone. Congratulations on 15 days you will get there.

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#9

Just keep doing the work and put your sobriety first. Everything will fall into place.

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#10

Move on from alcohol move on from her stay a good father sobriety is rough

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#11

losing people we love is unfortunately one of the worst parts of the addiction , 11 years and 2 kids together is a clear indication that your wife adores you but needs her husband back , focus on your sobriety and trust the universe’s timing , I’m back together with the love of my life after 4 years apart , we have plans to get married and start our family now , going on my 3rd year of sobriety , praying for you and your family :heart::pray:t3:

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#12

The best apology is changed behavior. You can’t be good for anyone else until you’re good to yourself. Hope you get better soon.

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#13

I am sorry brother. I wish I could say something to make it easier but I am currently going through a similar situation

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#14

Are you sure you want to leave the house and risk not being able to return later? Does it pass the four way test. I gave up my rights and wasn’t able to assert them when I suddenly had to adjust to not having my own place. Perhaps you can both take turns being the displaced person for alternate weeks or at least agree that you still have access to your own things and children if you’re a father. It’s a big step.

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#15

I am not sure you lied to your kids but you failed to follow through with what you said. That’s the disease of alcoholism not your true self. Guilt will not help anymore than sheer willpower. I encourage you to focus on each day not yesterday.

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#16

Every Single thing in life is a lesson, you are currently in the middle of it, you will overcome and persevere. Pain is a motivating factor to be your best self. Peace to you

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#17

To move forward it’s best to try to focus on today.

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#18

Stick with it or you’ll end up like me on the bad end of the stick.
Trust me knowing that you’re kids are 4 blocks over from you is a real thorn to mind & soul. I’m fortunate to still see them but things definitely will be different. Good luck :+1:t3: buddy. You can do it man :pray:

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You kidding me right now
Wow

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#20

Sobriety geys real real quick