I’m new at my job as a tech sales rep…im early sobriety,I went to dinner with some partners who we do business with. Everyone around me ordered alcohol except me…I ordered a Diet Coke and one partner immediately said, “you’re going to kill your liver with that. Did you know you can get cancer from that?” I laughed but deep down inside, I cried, I screamed, I wanted to barf… I felt so triggered by it , I know he was being facetious but I did not want attention drawn to me that I was not drinking. Immediately people were asking me why I wasn’t…..Its already difficult being a woman in a male driven work force, let alone to be chastised. I don’t think the guy realized how much it offended me…..he then picked on me for the rest of the night…..Unsure if I should call him and b*tch him out or pray for him & let it go… I felt sooo dumb but I totally obsessed on his comments all night 
I’m so sorry - that sounds awful and I totally hear you.
What a dumbass...really ridiculous comment. Only people driven by ego say things like that. Blow him off. I too am a woman and often have been on all male teams. It's obvious he has his own issues so it's sort of funny ...he thinks he's being clever but really just ignorant. Hugs.
People’s own insecurities w alcohol often make for some idiotic comments. From his level of consciousness that’s all he knows. Praying for him and letting it go is what responsible me should be suggesting you do but instinctive, protective, smart a$s me feels not until after you’ve cut a mini promo on him and put him in his place. So, clearly I need to continue working on myself. Having praying for him as an immediate option says something about you and how well you’re doing. Good job 
Thank you for sharing!
His lack of consciousness isn’t worth retaliation or an afterthought. You know how hard you’re working and that’s what’s important.
Keep your head up and keep the fight on. We’re all here for you!
That comment would have triggered me for sure! My emotional side would have obsessed about that all night. My logical side says that comment is his ego at play and he’s clearly trying to look clever.
I have found that honesty is always best in this situation. A simple statement saying, "I don't drink" or if it's someone that knows you've drank in the past you could say, "I no longer drink" is good enough. They don't need to know why. Either way it's none of their business. If they persist just kindly remind them it's none of their business but if they must know. That its unhealthy. Set those boundaries.
As for calling him and giving him an ear full. Yeah you could call him and politely ask him not to do that again, that you don't drink and that it makes you feel pressured to drink, that you don't appreciate being pressured and let it be. Or you could just let it be and say, "heal me and bless them" or "Bless me and heal them" or both. 
Or both politely call him and say that. If you call him with animosity it could blow your anonymity of recovery. Let people know you're in recovery when you feel comfortable with it. I personally embrace that I'm an addict/alcoholic. However, that was not always the case. It took a little time to get there.
Do the best you can and let it go. Remember, you are staying sober for you. If they can’t realize that, that’s on them. That said, I can only imagine the “mad men” atmosphere that you work in. It takes a lot of strength to do that, it’s not an easy thing. Way to go for fighting through and coming out better on the other side.
Can’t hurt to come clean with those co-workers. You’re young and worse case can always find something more in line with your new life. It’s a tough world for you ladies for sure. Just don’t use and this too shall pass. Keep on that sober path. You know all the rewards that await you.
I am very sorry you had to go through that Shannon. As someone who has spent over 25 years in your industry (and much of it in the C-suite), it pains me to say Tech is chock full of misogynistic and narcissistic men (and I am being courteous by calling them men).
I would echo what others have said regarding chewing the individual out. It might feel good in the moment but it will only come back to haunt you. That said, if your company has a strong HR unit, it might not be a bad idea to have a conversation with them about how the client treated you. What he did is, in my opinion, unacceptable, and making HR aware could be beneficial if his behavior doesn't change or gets worse. I have fired clients for such actions.
And please feel free to ping me directly if I can be of any assistance. The treatment of women in the tech industry is something that I have fought very hard to change over the years and it pains me that this sort of stuff still happens.
Sounds like a great guy with an amazing and complex personality.
He's a tool and you > him.
What a di*k 
let go and let God! He may be projecting his own insecurities onto you, when I was drinking.. I envied anyone who didn't order a drink. You're strong, be proud 
Acceptance of 417 in the big book.
When people ask me "why I am not drinking?" I'll reply with "I've had a few too many already" 
I found things get easier the more you become comfortable with your new lifestyle. I agree that it was insensitive for him to say that, bc we never know someones elses struggles. I broke my ankle during softball and a teammate immediately offered me a beer lol. He's not a alcoholic, so he doesn't get it. I barked at him "Na man, I don't $&@%ING drink" while is serious pain lol.
Don’t let others define YOU. Let them make silly observations or comments and just let it be. Be who you want to be 
If it happens again, just say you allergic to alcohol.
Just pray for him, and then thank God for not breaking that night and keep it pushin… That DEFINITELY won’t be your last that kind of situation. But it will make you stronger mentally for next times. Soon, you’ll be the dirt talker… 
You can use the female term I won’t here but my response is more like ‘I don’t drink because there’s an ingredient in there that turns me into a total asshole!
Fu€k that dude. He's insecure. Sorry you had to go through that but just pray for him and let it go. Just know that it was something inside of him that made him act that way, nothing to do with you. You did great and super stoked you reached out instead of holding it in! Huge step! 
I know not all people are like me, or are in situations like mine, but I'm very open about the fact that I went to rehab, and that I no longer drink. I'm open about being medicated, and attending regular therapy and meetings.
If people still choose to make snide and asinine comments after knowing these things, most others will see them as an a55hole.
Unless you feel it would jeopardize your job, consider honesty and openness.
I'm the type of person that only holds back personal things about myself that I feel would make the other person uncomfortable, but I know most people aren't that way. Being this way makes therapy so freeing for me. They're ready to hear whatever I'm ready to share.